My take on India's Daughter

I saw ‘India’s Daughter’ on YouTube the day it was released online. Despite the hue and cry it had generated, the video had a mere 103, 895 views, around 8 hours after it was uploaded. A Bollywood item number would easily have crossed a 10 million.

I think the director did an impressive job of speaking all the key issues and a bit more. The documentary is quite touching and thought provoking. The multitude of the reasons why the crime has happened are explored and the gruesome details of her brutal and inhuman violation are vividly shown. The heart wrenching interview of the girl's parents made me well up though. The way the accused mukesh singh puts up his thoughts are scary, to say the least. The documentary for me was indeed a masterpiece and the viewer is left to draw his or her own conclusions.

Well for me it was turned out somewhat like this

First of all i wanna say is that Jyoti Singh was a very lucky girl. although born in a traditional family, her parents had a modern outlook. She was encouraged to study and fulfil her dreams and was treated like a male child.Just imagine the millions of girls out there whose parents don't have a modern outlook. Their dreams are crushed so early that they dare to hope or think of their dreams.The only future they think is to get a husband.

The Pati Parmeshwar("husband is everything") mindset has cross the hysterical limits. Yes many people were disturbed by the comments made by the two lawyers defending the rapist.
I wanna ask a simple question out here "who the fucking authority made such ill and filthy minded people lawyers"

The statements made by one of the lawyer M.L Sharma ""in our society we never allow girl to come out after 6.30 or 7.30 or 8.30 in evening with unknown person... 
they left our Indian culture and were under the imagination of film culture....
you are talking about man and woman as friends.  Sorry, that doesn't have any existence in our society.  A woman means,I immediately put the sex in his eyes"" What the fuck is this.  How can such a jerk be a lawyer. His thinking is so fickle and out of the world. this comments are against the womanhood in general.

What really disturbed me more was the statement made by the wife of one of  the rapists. She said " without a husband i have no life, who will protect me, who will look after me... better i should die"  Just take a hypothetical scenario where the court acquits the man,  this lady seems quite willing to accept this man as her husband back. This is what her family and society would also advise her to do.

Instead of encouraging her to walk out of him and become an self-independent woman, educating her, giving her confidence and skills to lead her own life, her mindset is made so low and fickle minded.  ""Because you see woman have no life if they have no husband... Buzz off ""

What is wrong with people, i just can't understand. Has humanity no place in your mind and heart.

we can't improve our images by hiding the truth, we do it by accepting the truth and changing ourselves for the better. Only by improving our mindset with argumentative information exchange, we achieve that.Well solutions have to be thought of to eradicate the rape culture that is prevailing in India.
Beefing up an educated police force that handles sex crimes and cleaning up the legal system to punish the guilty severely with no mercy(they are simply animals in the face of humans)
From childhood i have heard that we should educate girls but now its high time that instead of girls we should educate boys.


 Putting a ban actually reflects the government has the same mindset as the rapist and the lawyer... if u think that it would be shameful for India, I feel it is more shamefull not to hang the rapists. No wonder why 1 rape happens every 20 minutes making India a Rape capital on the world map. And it is actually very much rooted by the way a MALE CHILD is treated and brought up here in India. If you look into each family, you will know that we are brought in such an environment where atleast one of these crimes have been comitted.. dowry, marital rape, domestic violence, preference of male child over female, female foeticide, adultry is committed and we are so used to it that we think its normal. Men today are okay having an extra marital that doesn't disturb their family. They can keep a balance between the 2. I am yet to see a wedding where there is no dowry, except for when both have fled n wed. To hit wife and say... its our personal matter, she'z my wife and wife accepting it, marital rape..people do not even know it is a crime and 95% men commit it, while women never stop coz its ok if it is husband. This mentality is part of our upbringing... so to stop crime against women, we need 2 change the way we Indians are brought up.

Happy woman's day

Like every year, its 8th of March and like every year we are still fighting for the gender equality, women rights and safety of women. Everyone is going about discussing of the assaults women face, the discrimination they come across and the pain of intimidation they suffer from. But hold on, I am not gonna discuss about it. Its a beautiful day and trust me, for the whole day there would be only two kinds of activities:
Happy Celebration of Women’s day.
Celebration full of struggle for women rights.

Today let me just turn it other way

Can we Indians imagine a husband parenting and nursing his child at home, doing all the housework and the wife dedicating her full time to a well paid job, and on returning home, dictating her husband on what to do?

Aren’t we confused at this role reversal? We start scratching our heads as to why this reversal seems so out of order………Why can’t we accept women dictating men, and men taking the complete responsibility of child care and household work, but accept the other way round?

This is because of the stereotypes we have been seeing and experiencing in this male-dominated society we are living in. A close look would reveal that such differences among men and women are not linked to any biological differences but because of different roles assigned by the society.

The discrimination faced by women begins from their birth itself. As soon as a child is born families and society begin the process of gendering. The birth of the son is celebrated with great pomp and happiness while the birth of a girl child becomes a source of grief. The son, is seen as the bearer of the family name is seen as the future source of income, as a type of insurance. The girl is looked down upon as a burden to the family. "May you be the mother of a hundred sons" is a common Hindu wedding blessing. This is the reason why there are many cases of female infanticide or female foeticide mainly in many rural areas and even in some urban areas in India.

Similarly boys experience preferential treatment when it comes to education and other facilities, since the Indian mentality has an opinion that the resources used for the male child is like an investment. However girls are either left uneducated or not given higher education because of the mentality that the resources used for girls would go waste as one day she would be married off. Moreover they see education as a reason for high dowry, a real root of many problems in India. A girl’s identity is forged as soon as her family and society limit her opportunities and declare her to be second-rate.

In India, gender-biased societal setup is the main cause for gender inequality. In a patriarchal society as in India, the male is always the head of the family, and the centre of power and authority because of the role of family earning assigned to him. Though women play an important role in the survival and maintenance of household, their position in household decision making is always secondary, as the role of household labour assigned to them is unpaid, and treated as unproductive labour.

Even in the economic sphere, women are paid less than men for the same work. Also, for jobs, promotion, undertakings, men are always preferred over women. Also women are mostly employed in the unorganised sector and their participation in organised, high paid jobs is still very less. Whether women work outside their homes or not, the household responsibility always vests with them!

Gender inequality has adverse impact on development goals as reduces economic growth. It hampers the overall well being because blocking women from participation in social, political and economic activities can adversely affect the whole society. Moreover it takes away basic rights entitled to all humans irrespective of their differences.

Education is the tool that can help break the pattern of gender discrimination and bring lasting change for women in developing countries. Women who have had some schooling are more likely to get married later, survive childbirth, have fewer and healthier children, and make sure their own children are educated. They also understand hygiene and nutrition better and are more likely to prevent disease by visiting health care facilities. Girls' education also means comprehensive change for a society. As women get the opportunity to go to school and obtain higher-level jobs, they gain status in their communities. Status transforms into the power to influence their families and societies.

Also equally necessary is the importance of the family members in supporting education for the girl child and acquaintance with ideas of liberalism, and social change. Women have proved themselves whenever they have been given a chance, in all spheres, be it social, economic or political. Hence it is the most important to give women the chance they deserve, as equal humans.

And today on woman’s day the ex UN Secretary General Kofi Annan said, "Gender equality is more than a goal in itself. It is a precondition for meeting the challenge of reducing poverty, promoting sustainable development and building good governance."

Well my advise for all girls and woman out there is ::

You have to do what is right for yourself, nobody else is walking in your shoes. Be the boss of your life. You just can’t depend upon others, when the whole day is all about you.
Dream! Achieve! Earn the Respect – Not for others but for your own happiness.! What if they discourage you or disrespect you- this world stops those who are capable of creating a history. And if there is no opposition, whats the fun in reaching to a position. Nobody can support you but may be everybody can. But why do you need them?

Your Life! Your Decision! Your Aim! Your Recognition!
You can be the Chief Executive Officer or The Chief Technical Officer or The Chief Legal Officer. It depends upon you and only on you. You have the choice – Either listen to what the world says or Follow what your heart says. Don’t be the one in a million kind of a girl. Be the once in a lifetime kind of woman.

Believe in yourself. Be Good. Do Great!
Happy Women’s Day.!

For you my valentine forever :)

So here comes agian 14th february. The day of love as people call it. Well i go back into the glimpses of past. Yet another year passes by with some old memories. Whoever says time heals everything does not know the pain of clinging. I would like to share something about my best friend...

I always wished that i had the kind of best friend i could just text a code word to and she would know exactly how to respond, the friend who would say "let's just hand out this weekend" and i would want nothing but uninterrupted time with her; the friend who would hear when i am sick and shows up with a bowl of soup. the friend who includes me in everything; whispers secret to me that she tells to no one else and the one who just always seem to want to be with me the same amount of time that i want to be with her.

When i am feeling little nagging angst of lneliness- it's for her that i want. It's for the fantasy best friend that i now would be Thelma to Louise, Raj to Simran, The laughter to our joke and even the fork to spoon. she would be the finisher of my sentences, the reader of my mind and the affirmer of my heart. Our time together will be easy, safe and comfortable.

The only friend she is who can bring my anger down. Someone with whom i want to spend the whole day with and never regretted, with whom i can form a well understood, synchronised partnership above all differences. People stay jealous but friendship is above all jealousy and just jump over the dumb peoples brain. she understands me better than i ever knew myself. The perfect hug in the right time and the correct method to stop you from entering into a wrong path. Closer than your girlfriend she is, loves you more than your lover, cares for you almost as your mother. I hate to see her go, it pull out all that i had from me. No matter what happens , how stuff changes, circumstances alter, how many fights and arguments i had with her, we guys stick by because thats what friendship is and my bestfriend is worth it!!! I proudly admit today that i love my best friend and no one can betray this fact...
I admit that i had that kind of friend in my life but due to some unavoidable circumstances she is not with me any more and we can never be together aswell. we even stopped talking or rarely we talk.
But above all these , i miss her a lot and always wish that she could be back in my life

people may be thinking why i am writing about my best friend on valentines day. Well she was everything to me including my lover ;). unlucky i am coz i missed date with her this 14th feb...

           

Sometimes just a glimpse of you may suffice

             but today is not the day of that kind

            morning walks and activa rides

           are still safe in my hearts old mine

With a stranger i talked all night

reincarnating the past in a shady room

with a sranger i smiled 

to let it go in the darkest hour

some old pictures bring lots of memories tied together

though i am trying hard not to remember you

as u said u will feel guilty 

but i am unable to do so

please someone help me out

someone bring me out of this trauma

i want to live a happier life

with you by my side

at times i think that you were a treasure i won but didn't deserve...i still have to say that i am not lucky but blessed to have you...Can't sleep...i am thinking about you. May be i am dreaming. Anyway i can't tell...all i know is that you are all that is left on my mind. I know u can't come back and we can never be together but i just wish and pray for you to stay happy forever wherever you are and don't miss me much...

#AIB knockout and Indian mentality

Watched the #AIB knockout??? Yeah??? fine read on...

Guys there is no right or wrong!!!
Everything  depends on whether we believe in the choices we make...
All India Bakchod chose to make the "knockout roast videos" which was damn entertaining, bold , daring, valiant, and really progressive.
I chose to watch it and i loved the video, so did million others. But unfortunately this is India, where culture speaks, tradition echoes, where even joke is not taken as sportingly...
Well welcome to India
A country where homosexuals are fighting for their right to be accepted,
A country where terrorists and Anti Nationals are having a free run
A country where women and kids are still asked to behave and not where short clothes while rapists are ignored
Welcome to land of KAMASUTRA where sex education in school is still frowned upon

How can you dare to make a ROAST where each and every politicians are busy roasting the citizens on a daily basis...

#India #not #country #for #funny #men
#India #not #country #for #free #men

Many people responded to the video that their so called sentiments were hurt and their hypocritical morality sabotaged. Once again moronic religious radicals have it their way. The whole point of internet is freedom from such censorship restrictions. Don't think we as society will ever grow up.

Ya i agree some jokes were disrespectful. But the opening warning before the video made very clear that if you take offense, please don't watch. See i don't think anyone here is a fan of rough, abusive and offensive language,  so ya it kinda irked to listen so much of it in a single video but roast is all about this. The definition of roast according to dictionary "its a subject to laughter and ridicule, a form of public insult". I mean you can't enter a chinese restaurant and expect them to serve you dosa. It is supposed to be offensive. And overall no one was forced to watch it. #AIB didn't buy airtime on every single tv channel to broadcast it. Youtube videos does not autoplay in front of you but yet it has more than 8.5 million views. Far more importantly on youtube the people who liked the video outnumbered the people by ten times then who disliked it.

 I am sometimes at sixes and seven where our country is heading. The problem with most of us Indians is that we are such hypocrites. We prefer to laugh on dirty jokes, watch porn but publicly mentioning any of this shit would be a crime . I am not against onanism or saying onanism is a bad thing. After all its quite natural but when you can do this inside four walls of your room, you can search for sunny leone on internet, read adult jokes and give a good laugh, then whats the problem in speaking in public.

We can censor, ban, destroy, kill and possibly do anything as long as we fit in the word #CULTURE and #TRADITION in there somewhere!!! Also government, dirty politics, rapes, female foeticides, illiteracy, unemployment,  and terrorism are probably graver issues than banning a youtube video i guess.

Grow up Indians...You dont need to band anything just because it does not appeal to your sensibilities. These are not videos inciting people to commit crime. However stupid they may be.
Don't you think that we need to focus on more paramount and relevant issues...
Yes to some extent even i agree that some jokes were really offensive. But they did all these for a noble cause and i respect #AIB for this. Moreover the people who have been roasted they themselves did not mind it, then who the hell are you all to hate it and no where in the Indian Constitution it says that roasting is not a part of indian culture or cannot be a part of indian culture....
Finally quoting the famous taylor swift "HATERS GONNA HATE.... HATE.... HATE


Let me end it here with a joke...

A hindu, a muslim and a christian enter a bar...

Unfortunately we can't let you in on rest of the joke. Its against our Indian culture.
Those who wanna have good laugh, ping me......

in simplicity lies ecstasy!!!1

Inspired by Priyanka Chakraborty.... :)

In character, in manner, in style, in all things, the supreme excellence is simplicity. There is serene beauty in simplicity. This inspired me to jot down this.

Its always simple that produce the marvelous...

Did we ever thought that how all our lives we tend to run after the most extra-ordinary things in the world? After all it is humankind’s innate desire to possess all the precious gems that make them do the most unbelievably bizarre things in the world!!! But it is the quest for the rarest things that make me wonder on the mere motive of our existence. For our tendency to ignore the simple things and yearn for an unfathomable dream that seems alluring only to our eyes beats the joy of leading a purely simple and blissful life. After all, what is left to achieve when joy chooses to cease our life due to our silly idiosyncrasies! Nothing but pangs of frustration runs through my body to see how easily all of us fall prey to the glaring atrocities disguised in the form of ‘good-life’. How all of us continue to misunderstand the difference between ‘virtual’ and ‘real’ happiness? Our inability to see the beauty of simple things sets the ball rolling for all our troubles. A pity that most of us tend to view this as an overtly unmotivated way to live!

What we fail to notice and accept is that the might of simple things is immense. What needs to be changed is our mindset. Over centuries we continue to believe in the assumption that a simple thing or product is plain and a rare thing or product is precious. It is ‘we’ who set rules of what is simple and rare. If you ponder for a while you’ll realize what I am trying to communicate! Do you feel any different when you eat lip-smacking roll from a road-side stall to when you’re dining at an 5 star restaurant? Yes, the setting makes a miniscule difference but the end result remains the same. And that is in both places we end up filling our stomach only! I am still unable to unravel the mystery then why is simple plain and rare precious?

Infact, decipher this. The various intricacies of life that we have to deal with everyday make  life very comlicated. ‘Simple’ and ‘Simplicity’ the two most rare and valued thing in today’s time. Which means that mankind’s quintessential search of attaining the extra-ordinary is nothing but an attempt to armour their many follies. Simple living / Simplicity / Simple life scores above the rare because in simplicity lies a rarity. It gives us an opportunity to live life like a child again. It lets us embrace life whole-heartedly and makes us let go of our inhibitions. It teaches us that we don’t have to travel miles to touch the rare gem. Rather, just listen to our heart-beats well that always and only sways to the tune of a simple life. Because in simplicity lies ecstasy!

In the middle of the road,
Stuck at the half route,
Seeking the future,
Yet, looking at the bygones.

No regrets, yet negativity,
Patience, was once the attribute,
Now tested  beyond the limits,
Polished, to the point of finish.

Finally finding the way to destiny,
Yet, a long road  awaits ,
Baby steps taken, to love, to passion,
Interrupted often , wary being.

Halfway learnings, I call the story,
Of love, of infatuations, of muses,
Half likings, wrong assumptions,
I call all that stay, and the ones gone.

Wrongs often attracted, fuel and leave,
Rights often attract, nicety give moments,
A cup of coffee, or maybe the cup of tea,
One is a mystic, the other often taken.

Life is a swirling highway, twisted turns,
I seek simple directions, for hurt too much,
Yet it hopes, believes and likes magic,
For sparks they leave, signs of an alive heart.

yes i admit that i miss her!!!!

When two persons talk after a long time, they have loads of things to share and talk specially when you stayed awake talking with her till morning. I don't even had a little idea how time passed with her, actually not pass, it flowed like a wind.

Actually we were very good friends. I just love talking with her and sharing things with her.  She was very unique, attractive and funny in her own way. I can bet people can never get bore with her. She is so so so interesting.

Our story started like she was my junior in school.  We rarely had a conversation in our school.  Her elder sister is a very good friend of mine. So, via her sister i started talking with her. With time being passed, we became very good friends, started talking daily,shared almost everything. I flirted with her a lot and she also surprisingly did sometimes. But i never loved her or something like that came into my mind.  I was very clear with my limits. We just keep on talking and sharing things as much as possible.  I trusted her like i was never betrayed.  Someone whom i know like the back of my hand, with whom i can spend the whole day talking. She was the last person i like to talk with before i go to sleep because talking with her makes me forgets everything. But then one day i dont know whose black eyes fell on our friendship..... Everything changed

Then suddenly i dnt even know what happened to her, she stopped replying to my msgs. She suddenly replied "its over,, never msg me anymore. I dnt wanna talk with you." and blocked me. I was like shattered from inside. Such a good friend of mine left me for no reason.

I was all alone and my mind somewhere else.  Being addressed by her in a few hell words, it was killing my mind, i cant even solve surds... She started coming in my dreams, i see her even in coffee cups. I was defeated, i quit, sadly says The Damn-Edged Atul.....

I was sure it was not love..  actually i had a bad habit of thinking and talking to her. i just wanted to be her best friend. Yeah it was definitely not love, yeah i was so beaten up, its hard but true to regret being the master mind, just she was revolving around, another my mind couldn't find. I kept on thinking , i have always received bluff being too good to others because people never understood me.

My mind kept on saying me that i was misunderstood. But internally i know well that i was not wrong, it was you who was so rude. You don't recognize me anymore, i m perished in ash, found no blood though the heart is squeezed in squash. Before i was very cheerful, i was not so dumb. But from that day my life has changed, i have become so numb!!  One day like my hair, my heart will curl, I realized i have become so lonely just because of a girl.  Ya i admit that i cant forget her, i will miss her forever. She was so damn sweet with me but just because of a girl i cant make my life null and hell all above.... 

I miss her even now and will miss her forever.  I hope whenever she realizes her fault, she will come back to me and start talking with me. The memories i wrote together with her will remain forever with me..... :(